We Need Each Other Now More Than Ever.
We’ve seen so many women team up over the last few months.
Megan and Cardi
Patti and Gladys
Monica and Brandy (well… kinda. LOL)
Erykah and Jill
The fact of the matter is that we are better together than we are when we’re splintered or standing in opposition of one another.
Partnership Has Tangible Benefits
Collaboration is the word for 2020 and beyond. We’ve watched as the current economy has swallowed up so many businesses. We’ve watched as catastrophes have forced us to come together in the wake of George Floyd, Brianna Taylor, Elijah McClain and so many others who have been senselessly taken from us. We’ve even seen people who would have never come together before, are locking arms for the sake of saving this country. Cuz… sigh…
Collaboration is what is helping sustain us right now. However, there is still a contingent of people who make it a point to shine alone, who don’t enjoy sharing the spotlight, and think it’s weak to lend a helping hand. (I ain’t gon call no names cuz… I’ve met my petty quotient for the day LONG before I started writing this post). I’ve always been annoyed at those kinds of people. Like… why are you this way? I made it a point to stay away from destructively competitive women cuz they induce my anxietation. (Yes... I made that word up. LOL. It means anxiety + irritation). I don’t even hang with women who “don’t trust women”. Like… sis, who hurt you?
I was washing dishes one day and letting my thoughts just run around in my head. (I get some of my best thinking done when I’m doing chores around the house). As I was rinsing, I had this realization that women who don’t trust are women who battle with fear. Usually, fear of intimacy comes from some level of trauma they may not even want to speak on, let alone address and eradicate. The thing is, there’s so much to be had in sister-friendships! They can be so fruitful, fulfilling, encouraging, strengthening, supportive, inspiring… just so many benefits!
Hold Up… Don’t Tune Me Out
Some of y’all are rolling your eyes at me right now… I know. I get it. I’ve been in sister-friendships that went up in smoke. However, the benefits FAR outweigh the risks! The key to collaboration over competition is releasing fear. I’m not talking about healthy competitions like in sports, auditions, or something like that. I’m talking about the kind of competition that says, “I won’t feel good until she feels worse” or “There’s something about her I don’t like so I don’t trust her” or “Something about her spirit is off” (that’s for the deep folks). Here’s the thing, you’re BOUND by fear. Uncut and unadulterated fear.
Mythbusters: The Maverick Momma Edition
Competing is rooted in the fear that lies to us and says things like:
You’ll outshine me because you’re better than me
You’ll steal my ideas
Assisting you will rob me of progress
You will eventually hurt me and so I won’t let you get close
When the truth is:
Your ideas, energy, strength, and progress originate from a source MUCH bigger than you.
My light actually glows BRIGHTER when I’m standing next to you
My contribution opens doors for both you and I and paves the way for those coming behind us
Our collective experiences are a reservoir to draw from, not a resume to boast in
My misery is NOT your victory and vice versa (I know that you want me to win despite the narrative they push on us)
Increased network AND net worth
New friendships and partnerships
It fosters creativity
Heightens our strengths and fortifies our weaknesses
Fuels our confidence in our collective abilities
Raises “Ground Zero” for everyone involved so we don’t have to work as hard
It encourages us
Empowers everyone to find their inner BOSS
I want to encourage you to step outside of your comfort zone to find someone whom you can partner with – in business, in mentorship, in entrepreneurship, or whatever. Let’s make an impact TOGETHER.
Now… GO GET IT.
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